just tell me this.

"So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad."

- JOHN GREE

assalamualaikum.
at first when I read this on Fatehah's blog, I just think, god! this is so true..
people always tell us to stop crying, it is not worth it, you'll be better, don't think about it, when all you want to do at that time is cry all you want, to think all about it to the core till you are giving up thinking about it.
nobody tell you that it's okay to cry, I know it hurts you a lot, you need to let it out..nobody ever said that.
But I guessed, that's the best remedy.
I need that.
I just need somebody to say, it is okay to cry, but once you stop crying you have to look a head..
only then I can see that things are getting better.
because by doing that, we'll stand on reality.
and the reality is....it hurt because it mattered.